tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4913528995711408109.post3683683700217643924..comments2023-06-27T12:22:09.413+01:00Comments on Learning to be selfish: Letting go of the old listVhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01785781682613066190noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4913528995711408109.post-83377889927299924192010-02-18T13:25:39.044+00:002010-02-18T13:25:39.044+00:00It's an interesting way of looking at things, ...It's an interesting way of looking at things, and has made me realise what's important to me. Simple things like I don't mind working evenings and weekends and travelling if need be, but my old flatmate loved that he could switch off completely at 5pm and his time was entirely his own. <br /><br />So many ways to look at it - Do you like autonomy or being part of a stricter team structure. Could you work four days a week for less money, or is financial security important? I have a portfolio of work, rather than a single employer, some people prefer stability etc. Do you want to learn or relax knowing you can do it all already?<br /><br />Skills will always be transferrable, have the confidence to identify yours; creativity, strong writing skills etc. Make work work for your life and loves!Vhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01785781682613066190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4913528995711408109.post-65358472495037754042010-02-18T12:58:49.666+00:002010-02-18T12:58:49.666+00:00Thanks V! Very timely advice. I had begun to sus...Thanks V! Very timely advice. I had begun to suspect that I was focusing on the wrong part, but it didn't occur to me to approach it from this angle.Staciahttp://butterflyonthewall.typepad.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4913528995711408109.post-13125045513702280902010-02-17T23:34:01.208+00:002010-02-17T23:34:01.208+00:00Should read 'How do...' not 'to' -...Should read 'How do...' not 'to' - bad typingVhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01785781682613066190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4913528995711408109.post-82382655013357566142010-02-17T23:32:40.042+00:002010-02-17T23:32:40.042+00:00Thanks and hey, you have chickens and a partner! I...Thanks and hey, you have chickens and a partner! I'll swap you....<br /><br />Having said that, work has worked ok for me because I chose an environment I wanted rather than a set career path thanks to a wise piece of advice I've neer forgotten (ie think about not what you want to do, but what environment do you want to work in? For example, I chose to reject suits, corporate structure, financial security etc, for flexible/meaningful work with a poor salary).<br /><br />How to you want to be, rather than what do you want to be? It's been a helpful way to see the benefits in the unexpected.Vhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01785781682613066190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4913528995711408109.post-80821744198628442912010-02-17T23:18:03.631+00:002010-02-17T23:18:03.631+00:00Letting go of expectations (our own and others) is...Letting go of expectations (our own and others) is definitely liberating - yay for you moving onwards and upwards! Btw, I am envious of your number 3. My own map is so full of pinholes and no pins. Can't seem to leave one in long enough to get to a destination!Staciahttp://butterflyonthewall.typepad.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4913528995711408109.post-90091345080881969042010-02-17T20:10:13.057+00:002010-02-17T20:10:13.057+00:00Thanks Jennifer, perhaps I will! I think most of u...Thanks Jennifer, perhaps I will! I think most of us harbour 'shoulds' in some way or another, and breaking free can be hard work. So glad to hear you set yourself free,<br /><br />VVhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01785781682613066190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4913528995711408109.post-53655941969395588702010-02-16T21:26:35.723+00:002010-02-16T21:26:35.723+00:00or you could upholster furniture and keep your lap...or you could upholster furniture and keep your lap top too.<br /><br />I like this post for many reasons. One of the main reasons is that finally about 5 or so years ago I STOPPED all the pushing toward some intangible ideology and started finding out about ME. Society won't hold you up when your falling.<br />Society cannot know my very essence and urge me on. Society in large part is many times WRONG about how to do it and how to go about doing it - LIFE that is.<br /><br />I appreciate this post as a woman. I am hoping for you and thank you for sharing your thoughts.Jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07270178527947291611noreply@blogger.com